Snoop On Your Cheating Girlfriend
Don't be Afraid to Snoop!
There are specific things you should look for, and some specific places you should look if you want to find evidence of infidelity.
- Check the credit card bills.
Look for charges to hotels, florists and boutiques - anywhere your spouse might have bought a gift. Then match the bills to the calendar; could the gifts have been for you? If not, this is a good clue.
- Check his wallet, his pockets and the glove box in his car.
Look for credit card receipts, particularly from restaurants and hotels. Also look for phone numbers that you don't recognize.
- Check his cell phone bill.
Look for phone numbers that you don't recognize and check the times of the calls. For instance, if he calls one number regularly during his commute, or any other time you're not around, that might be an important number. If you decide to call the numbers you suspect, do so from a pay phone so that your caller id is not recorded. Don't say anything when you call; just see if you recognize the voice of the person who answers. Very often, he's seeing someone both of you know.
- Check his odometer.
If he's been somewhere in the car, check the odometer before and after the trip to see if the mileage correlates to where he says he's been.
- Keep your eyes and ears open.
Listen for inconsistencies in what he tells you. But, don't ask too many questions or he might suddenly stop talking.
- Read his email.
Check the deleted mail folder, too. He may have deleted her emails as soon as he read them.
- Check the cache on your Internet browser.
Your web browser can show you the websites that have been visited recently. Looking at these can give you lots of clues. If he's been visiting the websites of vacation resorts, and the two of you are not planning a vacation, for instance. Or, you can see if he's been visiting dating or porn websites.
- Smell his clothes.
Detect a perfume that's not yours? It's an old cliché, but look for lipstick on the collar, too.
- Look at his clothes.
If he suddenly has new clothes, new underwear in particular, it may be a sign that someone new is seeing them, or even picking them out.
Snoop On Your Cheating Girlfriend
Remember that very often our instincts are true. If you think something is wrong in your marriage, you're probably right. However, that doesn't necessarily mean your spouse is cheating. If you suspect infidelity, keep your cool. It's important not to let your spouse know that you suspect him if you want to find concrete evidence. If he thinks you're on to him, he will be more careful, making it more difficult to catch him.
It's wise not to confront your spouse with your suspicions until you are absolutely sure. If you're wrong, you may have seriously damaged your marriage. It's also wise not to assume that your spouse is having an affair just because you're having one. Very often, unfaithful spouses ease their guilt by assuming their spouse is as guilty as they are.
Infidelity is a serious issue. If you suspect your spouse is cheating, be emotionally prepared to deal with the truth when you find it. Decide if you believe that your marriage is worth saving.
You may even want to start counseling on your own before you confront your spouse in order to make the confrontation easier to handle. This is a difficult time in your life, so it's important to prepare for the outcome, so that no matter what happens, you can take care of yourself.
Snoop On Your Cheating Girlfriend
Cheating Husband Behavior Signs
Friday, October 31, 2008
Cheating Husband Behavior Signs
Cheating Husband Behavior Signs
Have you noticed any of this behavior?
There are some common signs to look for if you're concerned that your spouse is being unfaithful.
- You start receiving hang up calls on the phone.
The other person might be calling to see if your partner will answer. If you don't have caller id - get it. Then you can see who the hang up calls are coming from. You may choose to call the number back and see if you recognize the voice. If you do this, call from a pay phone so that your number isn't recognized.
- Your spouse starts working a lot of hours or taking a lot of business trips.
See what you can do to verify your spouse's whereabouts. If they're going out of town, be sure to get an itinerary. Try calling the hotel room when he wouldn't expect it; maybe an hour after you've talked and said goodnight for the evening.
- Your spouse stops wearing their wedding ring.
Unless something such as a dramatic weight gain or weight loss has occurred, it's suspicious if your partner suddenly stops wearing a wedding ring.
- Interest in sex is lacking.
If your partner's sex drive suddenly declines significantly, it could be a big sign that something's going on. Some people are simply not interested in their spouse sexually once they have a new partner; others feel too guilty to have sex with their spouse when they're sleeping with someone else. Be aware that a decline in sex drive can be caused by stress, medication, or other issues as well.
- You lose access to bills.
If you suddenly no longer have access to the cell phone bill, the home phone bill or your spouse's credit card bill, it could be a sign that there's something on those bills they don't want you to see.
- Your spouse suddenly wants to try new sexual techniques.
It is a paradox of affairs that a cheater will often have a renewed interest in sex with you. If your partner hasn't indicated a desire to work on your sex life, you might well wonder whether he or she learned these techniques elsewhere.
- The emphasis on your partners appearance increases, they join a gym, etc.
Unless this is part of a desire to get healthy decided on by the both of you, your partner might be interested in looking good for someone else.
- You begin to get showered with gifts.
If your spouse is suddenly away from home more than usual, but brings you a gift nearly every time they come home, your partner could be buying you gifts both to ease the guilt and to avoid making you suspicious.
Cheating Husband Behavior Signs
If your spouse is demonstrating some of the above behaviors, you may have legitimate cause to worry. Take time to examine your relationship and see if there are clues as to why your spouse might be looking elsewhere; though there are certainly situations where there don't seem to be any concrete reasons why people cheat.
If you believe your spouse is cheating, it may be wise to look for some evidence before you confront them. Many cheating spouses will tell you that it's "just your imagination" when you confront them with your suspicions. If you want to get to the bottom of the situation once and for all, confronting your partner with evidence is the best way. Find those hidden cell phone bills. Read personal emails, Check into travel arrangements for those "business trips".
Infidelity in a marriage is one of the most devastating things we can face. But, until you know once and for all whether or not your spouse is really cheating, you can't deal with the situation and try to recover. Intuition is often right on target; if you think something is wrong and your spouse is displaying cheating behavior, there's a good chance you're right. So, take the time to find out what's really going on in your marriage so that you can get on with your life.
Cheating Husband Behavior Signs
Affair Detector: The Latest Cheating Spouse Study
Have you noticed any of this behavior?
There are some common signs to look for if you're concerned that your spouse is being unfaithful.
- You start receiving hang up calls on the phone.
The other person might be calling to see if your partner will answer. If you don't have caller id - get it. Then you can see who the hang up calls are coming from. You may choose to call the number back and see if you recognize the voice. If you do this, call from a pay phone so that your number isn't recognized.
- Your spouse starts working a lot of hours or taking a lot of business trips.
See what you can do to verify your spouse's whereabouts. If they're going out of town, be sure to get an itinerary. Try calling the hotel room when he wouldn't expect it; maybe an hour after you've talked and said goodnight for the evening.
- Your spouse stops wearing their wedding ring.
Unless something such as a dramatic weight gain or weight loss has occurred, it's suspicious if your partner suddenly stops wearing a wedding ring.
- Interest in sex is lacking.
If your partner's sex drive suddenly declines significantly, it could be a big sign that something's going on. Some people are simply not interested in their spouse sexually once they have a new partner; others feel too guilty to have sex with their spouse when they're sleeping with someone else. Be aware that a decline in sex drive can be caused by stress, medication, or other issues as well.
- You lose access to bills.
If you suddenly no longer have access to the cell phone bill, the home phone bill or your spouse's credit card bill, it could be a sign that there's something on those bills they don't want you to see.
- Your spouse suddenly wants to try new sexual techniques.
It is a paradox of affairs that a cheater will often have a renewed interest in sex with you. If your partner hasn't indicated a desire to work on your sex life, you might well wonder whether he or she learned these techniques elsewhere.
- The emphasis on your partners appearance increases, they join a gym, etc.
Unless this is part of a desire to get healthy decided on by the both of you, your partner might be interested in looking good for someone else.
- You begin to get showered with gifts.
If your spouse is suddenly away from home more than usual, but brings you a gift nearly every time they come home, your partner could be buying you gifts both to ease the guilt and to avoid making you suspicious.
Cheating Husband Behavior Signs
If your spouse is demonstrating some of the above behaviors, you may have legitimate cause to worry. Take time to examine your relationship and see if there are clues as to why your spouse might be looking elsewhere; though there are certainly situations where there don't seem to be any concrete reasons why people cheat.
If you believe your spouse is cheating, it may be wise to look for some evidence before you confront them. Many cheating spouses will tell you that it's "just your imagination" when you confront them with your suspicions. If you want to get to the bottom of the situation once and for all, confronting your partner with evidence is the best way. Find those hidden cell phone bills. Read personal emails, Check into travel arrangements for those "business trips".
Infidelity in a marriage is one of the most devastating things we can face. But, until you know once and for all whether or not your spouse is really cheating, you can't deal with the situation and try to recover. Intuition is often right on target; if you think something is wrong and your spouse is displaying cheating behavior, there's a good chance you're right. So, take the time to find out what's really going on in your marriage so that you can get on with your life.
Cheating Husband Behavior Signs
Affair Detector: The Latest Cheating Spouse Study
Affair Detector: The Latest Cheating Spouse Study
Affair Detector: The Latest Cheating Spouse Study
Be careful of what you are looking for.
That is advice well heeded following research by Melbourne's Swinburne University which has found that many cyber daters may also be cyber cheaters.
In fact, there are growing numbers of people who are leaving their partners and children in pursuit of relationships that were spawned in internet dating sites or chat rooms.
People looking for love online are almost as likely to be living with a partner (41%) as they are to be single (46%) The statistics are alarming, and the consequences of this have wider implications for the legitimacy of internet chat rooms, people surfing the net, and relationships where partners surf the internet on a regular basis.
Affair Detector: The Latest Cheating Spouse Study
While cases of internet infidelity may have raised eyebrows a decade ago, private investigators and divorce lawyers recognize it as an all too common trend, and attribute it to the explosive growth in internet usage, and the consequently increased access to a wider variety of people. The anonymity an online profile offers is also an alluring factor for many people who want to hide evidence from unsuspecting partners.
Unlike one-night stands, people are more likely to cultivate relationships with their online mistresses or buddies for several months. It was relatively rare for online romances to remain in cyberspace without meeting face to face. Many people begin chatting in internet chat rooms or dating sites, go on to exchanging phone numbers and start texting and calling, and many go on to meet the person if they are not stopped or caught in-between.
For many couples, internet infidelity has started as a result of a difficult period in an existing relationship and the internet has become an outlet for their dissatisfaction and relationships have developed from this need to communicate or process repressed feelings.
Given the statistics following Swinburne University's survey of 1000 people by telephone interview, it forces those of us out there who are in relationships to look at internet chat rooms and surfing the web in a new light. While the internet has heralded many positive changes for people who use it, it also has a growing dark potential in ending relationships.
It's something to be aware of.
Affair Detector: The Latest Cheating Spouse Study
Be careful of what you are looking for.
That is advice well heeded following research by Melbourne's Swinburne University which has found that many cyber daters may also be cyber cheaters.
In fact, there are growing numbers of people who are leaving their partners and children in pursuit of relationships that were spawned in internet dating sites or chat rooms.
People looking for love online are almost as likely to be living with a partner (41%) as they are to be single (46%) The statistics are alarming, and the consequences of this have wider implications for the legitimacy of internet chat rooms, people surfing the net, and relationships where partners surf the internet on a regular basis.
Affair Detector: The Latest Cheating Spouse Study
While cases of internet infidelity may have raised eyebrows a decade ago, private investigators and divorce lawyers recognize it as an all too common trend, and attribute it to the explosive growth in internet usage, and the consequently increased access to a wider variety of people. The anonymity an online profile offers is also an alluring factor for many people who want to hide evidence from unsuspecting partners.
Unlike one-night stands, people are more likely to cultivate relationships with their online mistresses or buddies for several months. It was relatively rare for online romances to remain in cyberspace without meeting face to face. Many people begin chatting in internet chat rooms or dating sites, go on to exchanging phone numbers and start texting and calling, and many go on to meet the person if they are not stopped or caught in-between.
For many couples, internet infidelity has started as a result of a difficult period in an existing relationship and the internet has become an outlet for their dissatisfaction and relationships have developed from this need to communicate or process repressed feelings.
Given the statistics following Swinburne University's survey of 1000 people by telephone interview, it forces those of us out there who are in relationships to look at internet chat rooms and surfing the web in a new light. While the internet has heralded many positive changes for people who use it, it also has a growing dark potential in ending relationships.
It's something to be aware of.
Affair Detector: The Latest Cheating Spouse Study
Friday, October 10, 2008
How To Catch A Cheating Spouse
Why It Is So Important That You Find Out The Truth
When a cheater tries to force you to mistrust your own gut instincts, it is called gas lighting. Gas lighting is not only lousy for your self-esteem, but it can also keep you in a state of denial. Sometimes, your own instincts are so damaged by lies, secrets and defensive accusations that it may be necessary rely on a private detective or a portable lie detector to find out the truth. Before you take drastic steps, take a look for these following signs that a spouse might cheating.
1. IT JUST DOESN'T FEEL RIGHT.
"My partner kept saying how much he loved me, but avoided touching me physically for months!"
You start wondering if he or she might be having an affair. Is it jealousy, your imagination or is he or she just paying less attention to you because there are other problems in the relationship? If your partner won't discuss issues with you, particularly if there is a lack of sexual intimacy, then you might have a cheater on your hands.
2. A SUDDEN CHANGE IN ROUTINE.
"He used to call me whenever he was going to work late, but now I have no idea whether or not he will be home at all! When I ask for an explanation, he loses his temper."
Is he or she staying out a lot later than usual, not showing up for dinner or unable to account for his or her whereabouts? Does your spouse react with rage and accuse you of being the Spanish Inquisition if you ask him or her to account for missing time? Changes of routine can indicate infidelity.
3. HE OR SHE IS MORE ATTENTIVE THAN USUAL.
"He tells me he is rewarding me with presents just for existing, but I would rather he were home more often."
If you are suddenly showered with gifts and compliments for no reason, then your spouse might be trying to make up for guilty feelings.
4. HE OR SHE CONSTANTLY PICKS FIGHTS WITH YOU.
"I know a fight is coming because she tries to rub salt on old wounds by reminding me of a time I was in the wrong. I get so frustrated I end up yelling and she slams out of the house."
In this case, the cheating spouse is looking for a reason to blame you for his or her need to leave. The emotional logic behind this is that picking a fight gives the cheating spouse an excuse to fly out of the house and possibly into the arms of the third party. That way the cheating partner can deny guilty feelings and blame you instead. If you are not to blame, a cheater will always create a reason to justify what he or she is doing to you.
5. YOUR MATE IS FREQUENTLY SARCASTIC OR CRITICAL OF YOU.
"He is always calling me stupid, and when I cry, he tells me I am pathetic and leaves."
This is part of an agenda that, once again, gives the cheating spouse an excuse to leave or a justification for the affair. The guilty partner might also be overly sensitive to criticism from you, as there may be a ring of truth that triggers guilty feelings that they would rather not face.
6. YOUR PARTNER USES ENDING THE RELATIONSHIP AS AN ULTIMATUM.
"It is always her way or the highway. If I don't agree to every little thing, then she threatens to leave me."
If your partner threatens you with ending the relationship every time you have a fight, you might have a cheater on your hands. A cheating spouse feels safe giving these ultimatums, because there is another person as backup should the two of you decide to split up.
7. YOUR PARTNER IS CONSISTENTLY NEGATIVE.
"I don't like the way my wife keeps telling me that we will always be friends even after this ends. This makes me think - why is she envisioning a future without me?"
Another sign of cheating is a consistently negative attitude towards the relationship and comments that make you feel as if you have an expiry date inked on your forehead. This might include saying such things as, "I would like to travel next year," (with no mention of a "we") or, "You know I will always love you, even when this ends."
8. YOUR LOVER IS EMOTIONAL OR DEPRESSED.
"All I have to do is ask a simple, polite question and he starts yelling at me to get off his back!"
It could be that he or she is brooding about what he or she has done and can't handle the guilt. Sudden explosive displays of affection or anger can also be a bad sign, as the partner might be
transferring emotional reactions from the outlaw relationship onto you simply because you see each other more often. In other words, you may be the recipient of a mood that is not due to any of your actions at all, but because the third party provoked a fight!
9. YOUR MATE BECOMES MORE PRIVATE.
"She has always undressed in front of me, but now she wraps herself up in her robe like she is afraid I will catch her in the nude."
Cheaters psychologically distance themselves in such subtle ways as locking the bathroom door when he or she has always left it open, doing their own laundry or keeping locked drawers. If he or she seems extra finicky about personal boundaries or seems to be trying to set new rules about privacy, this is also a warning sign.
10. YOUR MATE'S PERSONAL STYLE CHANGES.
"For years, the two of us watched the Rocky Horror Picture Show together and now he is poo pooing that and saying he was not that into it, just humoring me."
Dating experts say that if your partner's taste in clothing, movies or music suddenly changes, than he or she may be trying please a new lover.
11. YOUR SPOUSE NO LONGER ACTS LIKE PART OF YOUR LIFE.
"I really want to have kids and buy a house soon, but every time I bring up our future she shrugs it off and changes the subject."
Perhaps the biggest indication that you might be dealing with a cheater is if they stop acting as if they are a part of your life. They may lose complete interest in family, friends or following through on mutual financial goals or plans for the future. Your mate also might be reluctant to go out of town or on vacation, as the time away might cause a crisis in his or her other relationship. You need to find out the truth because you are wasting all of your financial, physical and material energies into building a future with someone who may not be planning to build a future with you.
If you do discover your partner is cheating your relationship will also probably go through three phases. The first is the reaction to the affair, the second is the decision as to what to do about it, and the last is a recuperation phase (whether or not you decide to stick it out with your partner in the end). If your partner is willing to be part of the decision and recuperation phases, it is highly recommended that you seek marriage or relationship counseling to deal with the fall-out from the infidelity. No matter how you find out the truth, whether it be through the use of a private detective, a portable lie detector or catching the perpetrator in the act, knowing it is better than being afraid of it. Remember that the truth may hurt but it will also set you free.
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Keeping it real!
Friday, October 3, 2008
Affair Detector Review
Affair Detector Review
The Affair Detector Guide is filled with all of the things you should know if you suspect your partner of having an affair. You must arm yourself with evidence to support your suspicions. This e-book has all of the answers. It is well thought out, and has all of the tips and tricks at your fingertips if you have the need to find out if you are a victim of a cheating spouse.
This guide will tell you how to find the clues you need to prove your case. It will show you how to retrieve and look at deleted instant messages from a cell phone. It will also show you how to find out what numbers are being called and who is calling the cell phone even if the calls have been deleted.
If you want the telltale signs of a cheating spouse, they are in there. Like smelling a different perfume on his clothing, maybe he is dressing differently or taking special care of his appearance. Maybe she is getting dressed up and finding more reasons to leave the house that she did not have before.
If you suspect something is going on, this e-book will help you to follow up on your instincts. It is insightful, thoughtful, and also helps you to deal with whatever you find out. Find out if he is lying to you. The book tells you what signs to watch for when you are being lied to.
There are errors that every cheater makes and this e-book will tell you what they are. This e-book is just what your unsuspecting partner will be caught by. All of the valuable information in this book is worth any price to protect your sanity and your emotional being. Affair Detector is definitely the book that will help you to finally know the truth, so you can go on with your life.
Affair Detector Review
Thursday, October 2, 2008
A Cheating Spouse Touchy.... Confronting the Other Person
A Cheating Spouse Touchy.... Confronting the Other
Helped bring closure.
1. What was your purpose for confronting the OP and what did you say/do?
To bring closure for me and in a way i had hoped that she would reply with remorse and apologies. I e-mailed her as it made it less personal. I let my husband read the letter before I sent it and we both agreed for it to be sent.
2. What happened? What was the outcome?
She was incredibly sorry and apologetic. I got the feeling that she meant everything she said and her words and apologies were very heart-felt.
3. If you were to do it again, would you do it differently? What did you learn?
I would do it just the same. For me the outcome was very conclusive. There were absolutely no harsh words from either of us and in a strange way i felt an amazing connection with her after our correspondence.
Comment:
I would guess this would be an "I Need to Prove my Desirability" affair or perhaps, "I Want to be Close to Someone...but can't stand intimacy."
Note the lack of drama. Or perhaps there was drama, but all parties were able to stand back, make some shifts and growth and moved through their neediness. What do you think?
Also note the mutual agreement by both spouses to send the letter. Sounds like they were both on the same page - which takes away much of the game playing.
A Cheating Spouse Touchy.... Confronting the Other
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